With all of the news about the Ashley Madison hack, Josh Duggar, and Jared from Subway, it makes me feel so sad that so many men are unfaithful partners. It is so incredibly scary to me that websites such as Ashley Madison even exist, and are allowed. I have experienced some pretty bad men in my life, both in dating, and in my own family. I dated the wrong guys in general for a lot of years. I feel lucky that I am married to such a great man now, and I hope that our future and life together will be happy.
My own father is not in my life, and is in no way a good example of what a husband and father should be. However, I am lucky that I had a very strong role model of what a husband and father should be like when I was growing up. My grandfather, who we called Pap, was a true gentleman. He was kind, good mannered, and always treated my grandma and his children and grandchildren so well. My grandpa was 100% Greek, and grew up during the depression in Boston. He served in World War II, and then married my grandma after graduating from Boston University. He went on to have 8 children, and then 20 grandchildren. Some of the qualities that my grandpa possessed that I looked for in a husband came from seeing how my grandpa was as a father and husband.
Gentle and patient
Papa never lost his temper, and was so mild mannered and gentle with us. He always had time to play with us, and would spend hours drawing incredible pictures, making elaborate sand castles, and playing hide and seek.
Papa had impeccable manners. He never swore, never talked about other women, and always held the door for ladies. He never said anything inappropriate or off color.
Papa never over ate or over drank. He would eat until he was satisfied, and had one glass of red wine a day. He modeled this for my family, and I still try to live by his rules for healthy living. He enjoyed treats- desserts and McDonalds occasionally. He enjoyed red wine. But he never over-indulged. This showed me how to eat and drink.
Put My Grandma First
Papa loved my nana unconditionally. He put her above himself, and always made sure she was happy. He treated her so well he was kind and loving to her until her very last day.
Papa never talked about himself much. He could have constantly spouted his knowledge about his experiences in World War II, or complained about this or that. Instead, he preferred to know about us, and talk about sports and current events.
I try to model my behavior after these qualities, and I hope that Jim and I can be good partners and parents and be kind, patient, good mannered, self effacing, and put each other and our family first. I think that if we do these things, we will have a happy life, and be good role models for our own children.