My sweet Connor has colic. He takes Zantac for acid reflux but we don’t know what the cause is. I read the Happiest Baby on the Block recently and the Happies Baby Guide to Sleep, and have been following the ideas and suggestions in the books. The website has lots of great info and the books have even more! The cause of colic is unknown but whatever the cause or reason, babies cry for at least 3 hours a day 3 times a week. Connor cries a lot! In the beginning it used to freak me out and I would be crying right along with him. Now I am more used to it but it is stressful and I do everything in my power to help him. Thankfully Connor is much better than he used to be but he still has fussy times and even fussy days. For my baby this is what happens and how I try to deal with it. Of course every baby is different!
Reasons for crying
Being hungry- I think every baby cries because of this!
Being in his car seat- he hates it!
Being overtired- if Connor goes more than 90 minutes awake, he gets overtired and then he can’t seem to settle himself down.
Overstimulated- Connot doesn’t like loud noises or loud voices, and gets overwhelmed, especially if he is tired. He deals with this by crying. Some babies deal with overstimulation by sleeping and some deal with it by crying. Connor chooses crying!
Having a tummy ache- when Connor is gassy or has a belly ache he cries.
Unknown- Connor sometimes cries and we don’t know why!
How we help calm the crying and deal with colic
The Happiest Baby book talks about the 5 S’s- sway, swaddle, shoosh, side/stomach, suck
Sway- I walk with Connor when he cries. He is heavy! My arms are so tired all the time but it works for him. Sometimes I walk for hours at a time!
Swaddle- at night we swaddle him so his arms are pinned down. During the day I try to calm down his arms if he is crying.
Shoosh- I have the white noise app and it helps tremendously!
Side/stomach- when I’m carrying Connor it helps to have him up against me on his side.
Suck- sometimes he likes a pacifier but not always.
Tips for dealing with colicky babies if they aren’t yours
It can be hard for family and friends of a colicky baby. It can be stressful and overwhelming when the baby is crying a lot. Here are my tips to anyone who encounters a colicky baby.
Let the mom or dad calm the baby- many people are tempted to try to calm the baby down and use their parenting skills to try to stop the baby from crying. For me, it makes the situation 1000 times more stressful and overwhelming because the baby gets worked up even further. It is easiest to just let me calm him since I am with him the most.
Don’t take it personally-it might seem like the baby is crying because of you but it’s not! Babies cry. There is no rhyme or reason to it. And the fact of the matter is, babies usually cry less with their moms than anyone else because, well, it’s their mom!
Be extra nice to the parents- being a new parent is hard, and being a parent to a colicky baby is really really hard! Give the parents some extra love!
Respect the parents’ wishes- sometimes it’s hard to take Connor out. Sometimes we prefer to stay home because it is easier and works best for him. All parents of babies need to do what is best for the baby first and foremost!
Know that this is a stage- colic ends eventually, and a happy smiley baby emerges. You will get to play and laugh with the baby eventually.
Connor is feeling better than he used to and I hope this trend continues! If you have tips for colicky babies please share!